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Stage 2-Anger

The second stage of grief is anger. After you have experienced denial of a situation you then will begin to experience anger over the situation. You may begin to ask yourself " Why didn't he tell me he was having problems? Why didn't she tell me that she didn't want this relationship all these years? Why didn't he talk to me? You may also begin to use comments such as " I feel used" " I feel that he didn't care or she didn't care about my feelings" You may begin to just add comment after comment to justify the situation and to come to your conclusion of the situation itself. If a death has occurred you may be angry that the other person didn't consult you for help. If someone broke up with you, you may be angry that they did not communicate with you about the issues bothering them in the relationship. You may feel the relationship could still have been saved if the person could just have communicated with you. Anger can make you come to so many conclusions that you will just build more anger in the process.

The first step in controlling this stage of anger is to accept that you should not take anger as a form of blame. It is easier to point the finger at the other individual and make the situation seem as though it's their fault. Blame and anger will not change circumstance. You will be the one ending up with the big headache or stress. The other person will not. You may be angry that they are not suffering as much as you. Again anger won't build anger on them you will just build anger on yourself for no reason. You will be the one losing sleep, getting headaches and even crying over the situation. They will not. Blame will not make the situation better it will bring no progress. If you hope anger brings change then you may have to take a couple steps backwards to notice anger will make a situation worse for you...not better.

I would suggest to take this stage and evaluate what you can change in the future about your motives so you do not have to reach this stage of anger again. Once you have been able to evaluate yourself you will then begin to reach the next stage of grief.

Cynthia

The Psychic One