The first stage of grief you experienced denial of
the situation. You were in denial of the relationship being over.
You may have been in denial that the death of a loved one has
occurred especially if you're not in front of them. During the 2nd
stage of grief you may have become angry at the person or
incident. Perhaps you were angry for the break up especially if
the breakup was abrupt. You may be angry at a loved one for
leaving you so soon or for now holding on long enough for you to
be able to spend time with them. Once you entered the third stage
of grief you began to bargin. Bargaining is when you are trying to
justify the situation by asking questions or even adding
probability. " If I probably did this he/she will still be here
today". Adding statements such as "what if or maybe" will not get
you anywhere besides the next stage of grief.
The fourth stage of grief is depression. I know
this will be a tough one to handle. Depression can be very somber
and sad and it can last for months. At this stage you are
beginning to accept the incident whether it's a breakup or another
type of significant loss. It will be a tough period of time for
you because you may sort to drinking or even other medications to
get your by this stage. You may want to feel numb or will feel
numb. You may even feel that no one understands what you are
experiencing at this time in your life. Depression can be
difficult to handle because its a difficult emotion to control.
You may be busy working and suddenly have a image of the person
that consumes you throughout the day. You may even try to seek
therapy and discover that the depression is difficult to control.
It will be a challenge to handle depression but it can be
The first step in handling depression is to not
allow it to consume you. The longer you think about it the more it
takes over you. Try focusing on other aspects of your life
including spending time with family and friends. Please try not to
over power any conversations with your depressed thoughts or else
you will bring down the mood. You want to be around others so your
mind does not wonder back to the trauma or an incident of the
past. Being around other people will help you to build a stronger
sense of strength and security in yourself. Remember that
depression takes time so do not feel bad if you are still feeling
depressed 6-12 months later.
The next step in handling depression is seeking
counseling or therapy. You want to sort out all your emotions and
feelings with someone who can guide you in the right direction so
you can live a healthier life. You want to be able to communicate
with this individual all the emotions you are experiencing so they
can help you get through this stage of grief. The more you bottle
it up inside the angrier and depressed you will become.
I have also noticed that during this stage of
depression many people experience a combination or anxiety and
panic attacks. Again, I would advise to seek some form of therapy
before the situation worsens. You may lose sleep, experience
shortness of breath, consistently fear the worse is to come and
even double check all forms of security around you. For example,
you may double check if the front door is locked or even your
stove burners are off. You may constantly check to see if your
keys are in your purse. All these issues are connected with
depression. Seeking therapy will help you to get your life back on
I know being depressed is tough and do not feel
angry with yourself if you are experiencing depression for several
months. You may also be feeling anxious at the same time which
will make your depression worse. Try to focus on the positives in
life such as family, friends or pushing towards a better career.
Keep yourself busy by attending classes or even picking up a new
hobby. Keeping busy will help you build security in yourself which
will also help you to into the next stage of grief.
The Psychic One